The past, present and future walk into a bar.
It was tense.
After you roll your eyes, lend me your ears.
Let’s imagine your future self. Blythe, billionaire heiress, floating on a swan shaped inflatable at an exclusive resort in the Maldives, perhaps a sparkling glass of champagne in hand. No? Alright, let’s take it down a notch. Cheerful, successful, happy go lucky with a fresh iced coffee in hand, maybe even got your hair did? Affirmative. Let’s mute the kids and all that background motherhood noise for a few minutes. Aaaaaaaah. Heavenly.
Now, when you envision your future self, sometimes it’s hard to get from Point A to Point B. That’s where all the self help books and mommy retreats come into play.
Much has been written about changing your life through memes, blogs, click bait and fortune cookies. However, seriously sustainable life changes truly happen through experiences and sometimes with the help of benevolent others.
Vegan this and change your life that; there’s a plethora of self-help and feel good advice out there. Alongside all those schemes, there are some genuinely compassionate and helpful people who want to cultivate your success. It’s the unconventional belief called pronoia, the firm conviction that this universe is conspiring FOR you, not against you. In this bright new world, everyone wants only sweetness and light to surround you.
Sounds a bit too precious and flowery for you? Perhaps. Or, maybe it’s your perpetual pessimism that keeps you stuck playing Qbert on the dark side. [Insert Qbert sound effect here.]
At the beginning of this year, I wandered around one of the most exquisite mansions I’ve ever seen. I was attending the “Make This Your Best Year Ever” retreat organized by my neighbor, Deborah Buell, and her fellow feel-good colleague, Eileen Reed. The Willowdale Estate is a wedding venue in beautiful Topsfield, Massachusetts. The regal, castle like structure gave the day’s self-help retreat an aura of splendorous living and offered the glamorous foundation to build your new future self, even if it was only with glue sticks and vision boards.
The day abounded with happy bright energy, delicious Farm to Table meals and even a little bit of old fashioned Voodoo. Just kidding. About the Voodoo. Although there was plenty of Chakra talk, no voodoo was performed on the premises. Unless you count me casting a spell on a pile of laundry to wash itself when I got home. By the end of the day, I felt relaxed, inspired and most importantly, motivated.
So, did I have my “best year ever?” Personally, yes. Politically, a resounding no. But that’s another story, sweet things.
Fast forward to December and I landed the dream job. This month I will begin my new career as a Children’s Book Reviewer for a local magazine with a circulation of 50,000 readers. I also lived up to all those glossy magazine pictures of me doing yoga everyday and making Muesli. Okay, I stopped doing yoga because my 3 year old boy thinks my belly is a trampoline and yesterday I made the boys microwaved bacon, but, hey, I’m working on it!!
I also became determined to be a part of the solution when it comes to environmental issues, so I’m now starting my own branch of the wonderful, western Massachusetts Bagshare Project. Visit www.thebagshare.org for more information. (It’s a growing movement to rid the world of plastic bags).
In other good news, you could try out this mommy retreat business for yourself if you’re in the Boston area.
The next retreat happens in January; a fresh new start for a fresh new future self. And if you’re concerned about the price, it’s not sticker shock and 10% of the proceeds from Creating An Intentional Life will be donated to HAWC – Healing Abuse Working for Change. HAWC provides free services and support to victims of domestic abuse residing in 23 cities and towns on Massachusetts’ North Shore.
So, try it out for yourselves, you beautiful creatures.
You don’t have to bring your own glue sticks, but you do have to bring your bright, hopeful visions for the future.
And that’s intense.
To learn more about the guest speakers, visit Www.believegrowshine.com
If you’d like to sign up for the event, visit Eventbrite.