So, I hurt my back the other day. How, you ask? Getting out of a car. Sounds simple enough, doesn’t it? Open door – swing legs – turn body – step out – stand up… Yeah, somewhere in that sequence, there was a back twinge and it hurt just to stand. By the way, bourbon helps, but I digress…
Women – take care of yourselves! Take time to care for you! If you are to be of any help to others, ever, you must take care of you first. This is easier said than done, of course, but critically important.
We all have many, many, many things to handle in any given day. Spouse, kids, career, aging parents, groceries, laundry, house-keeping, yada, yada, yada… Some of us even have school on top of all that. So how do we fit it all in? How do we make sure we can fit it all in? For me, personally, I let housekeeping fall to the bottom of the list. I’ll get to it when I get to it. It’s. Just. Not. That. Important. I’m not saying I live in a pig-sty. My home is organized and mostly uncluttered, just a little dusty. I’m also fortunate that my husband like to cook. So he cooks for us and I clean up after him. It’s a good system. And while he’s cooking, I’m exercising. It’s a great system! He gets to enjoy cooking for his wife and I get to take care of myself by exercising. And we both benefit.
Of course, we don’t have kids so that makes it a little easier. We do have his daughter a couple of nights per week, so we plan for that. For you women out there who have full-time jobs and spouses who work full-time and kids at home – I don’t know how you do it. I do not envy you. Well, in some ways I do, but that’s a blog for another day.
So, what’s my point? Plan time into your day to take care of you. This is not selfish! It’s a must!! I tell this to my health coaching clients ALL THE TIME. You have to actually schedule ‘me-time’ into your calendar or to-do list. In a way that’s meaningful to you. For me, it’s regular exercise and getting a massage periodically. For you – maybe it’s a half hour soaking in the tub. Alone. Or maybe not alone 😉
Perhaps it’s an early morning run before the kids get up. Or closing your office door and doing yoga for 30 minutes (if you’re lucky enough to have an office door). Taking a walk in the middle of the day. Reading on the train – something Not work-related. Writing in a journal. Writing a blog! Meditation, exercise, alone time, bourbon, the list is endless.
Bottom line – you must take care of your body, your mind, and your spirit. And these mean different things to different people, so you need to figure out what this means for you. And then do it.
When and if someone in your family needs you – you want to be able to help. That can only happen if you are well. And that can only happen if you take care of yourself first.