Tag Archive: divorce

posted a blog on September 15, 2017

On one of my early dates with my now husband I remember him talking about how some of his friends didn’t really understand his commitments to his daughter as he ‘only’ saw her every other weekend. I said to him, “You’re her dad everyday regardless of if you see her or not”. Reflecting on this now,...  

posted a blog on May 15, 2017

Emotional conflict is a terrible feeling.   Two voices battling – feeling neither here nor there you know you have to choose.  Of course you choose the expected one, but inside you’re terrified. I attended a woman’s support group.  It was an eye-opener to say the least.   If you think your problems are bad...  

posted a blog on April 15, 2017

My Mum is disappointed. In me. She’s disappointed in me. If you have ever been on the receiving end of anyone’s disappointment then you will know…it sucks! It’s a million times worse than anger, or the silent treatment. Give me a screaming argument any day – let’s get it all out in the open, cards...  

posted a blog on February 7, 2017

Divorce is grief. People categorize it differently, like a life change or a transition or maybe even a tragedy. They focus on the finances, who gets the kids, and if the adults are acting decent or like jack asses. But if you look at any one of those factors, aren’t they all loss? Life change,...  

posted a blog on November 23, 2016

I don’t know if everybody gets it, but I’m grateful for my divorce. Or, I guess I should say, my separation. My divorce isn’t yet final, but it’s on it’s way. And I’m thankful for that. This is the sort of thing you’re not supposed to say. Maybe it’s right up there with having hidden...  

posted a blog on October 14, 2016

My kids are both tucked into their beds, sweaty hairs on the pillow, small warm bodies snuggled into fresh sheets with their overhead fans whirring and white noise all around. Like most other days, I snuck out from my son’s room and closed his door (wondering yet again if it was a good idea to...  

posted a blog on June 21, 2016

After a 16 year relationship with my ex-husband, a pretty tough divorce and a new sense of freedom like a bird that had been released from it’s cage… I flew into the arms of a man that rocked my world. He asked me on a date and 4 years and hundreds of dates later, we...  

posted a blog on March 23, 2016

I am one of the most expressive and open people I know. My friends and colleagues have always told me this. So you can imagine how difficult it would be to keep my plans for divorce to myself. Sort of like keeping the first couple of months of being pregnant secretive… only when you share THIS news, it...  

posted a blog on February 19, 2016

When I was pregnant my husband was thrilled. He did all the things a good husband was supposed to do for his pregnant wife: he rubbed my belly with cocoa butter, he apologized profusely when he ate the last mini Snickers, and he talked to the baby taking up space in my ever-expanding stomach. I...  

posted a blog on January 24, 2016

If you are reading this then I assume you are where I was. There will come a day when you realize that you are heading for divorce. For me, I was certain that I wanted to break up about one month before I told my ex. Keeping this to myself was difficult for many reasons especially because this was...  

posted a blog on January 4, 2016

I remember the drive that Monday morning to my future lawyer’s office. I asked my Dad to join me so I had an extra ear. I knew the meeting was going to be difficult, filled with details and emotion and I needed the comfort of my Dad by my side. The whole ride he fired...  

posted a blog on December 8, 2015

Those are words you should never say to another woman (ok maybe not NEVER because there could always be an exception to the rule, but Be CAREFUL.) We all want to protect our friends. We all want them to be happy. But suggesting leaving a marriage that isn’t yours is a slippery slope! A marriage...  

posted a blog on November 21, 2015

I used to love dating. It was so different from being married, and so much fun to get to know new people and get dressed up and have someone dote on you. Plus, you didn’t have to cut anyone’s chicken fingers for them (hopefully), which was a nice change. But pretty quickly it became apparent...  

posted a blog on November 10, 2015

Let’s be real…nobody goes into a marriage thinking they will one day be divorced. And while my pre-marriage relationship certainly had some bumps and hurdles, I never thought it would happen to me. But it did. And it effing SUCKED. When we landed back home after more than a decade of moving around, it was...